I just noticed this morning that my decisions are based on calculated expectations of how I might feel in a given situation based on past experiences. Here's the real life example...
Today I have an option to go to Lake George with Chris and go out on the boat with him and his Mom, Aleda. The plan is to stop for lunch at Lake George Club or the Algonquin. Let's see if I can break it down... OK I'll use the trusty Ben Franklin method of pros and cons...
1. Beautiful nature experience Windy & Hot
2. Great hear fun stories from Aleda All Chris & Aleda will talk about is politics
3. Opportunity to build memories I can do that anytime
4. Time spent with my Honey Time alone at home would be nice
5. Get out of the house - Vitamin D I don't feel comfortable in clothes
6. Lunch would be tasty LGC food sucks - I'm fasting
7. You won't wonder if you should have You may regret not going
I'm not sure if the columns are right on that last one. It is an important one and may actually tip the scales. I HATE REGRETTING things! I have to also say that neither decision is "wrong" there won't be any consequences imposed by anyone but me. No one will be "mad" either way. That's big also because I probably wouldn't be having this conversation if I felt I had to go I would just make the best of it.
So that brings up another item to consider with true freedom of choice - the people pleasing factor. I'm trying to estimate how I will FEEL... when I know I'm in charge of my feelings... strange, right!? So I'm really trying to make up my mind based on how I chose to feel last time I experienced similar circumstances. I'm not sure when the last time was that Aleda went anywhere in the boat with us. So there's another deciding factor.
I actually told Chris before I left that I would be going. I just confirmed my decision and reinforced / reminded myself that I CONTROL how I FEEL and experience things. And guess what, it's going to be the best day ever!
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I decided back in November 2015 to make my poetry available and journal online. I'm not exactly sure what "blogging" means but I am quite sure this is an online journal. Feel free to read on with an aire of open minded curiosity. At no time do I intend to offend, judge or pretend to know anything really, I'm just an observer and explorer, as we all are. Feel free to "boldly go" through my observations and perhaps it will spark or inspire. Comments are off because I don't want to be worried about political correctness when I'm writing. I'm not thinking about "you." I'm just writing because it feels "right". Feel free to enjoy or surf on.
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